 With the recent passing of Amy Winehouse, I was asked by several people what I thought of it since I’m also an artist. Frankly, when asked, I didn’t feel like bothering with the conversation that supports my answer to the question.
So, I’m readdressing the question here and now, but first, with some perspective on creativity and the psychology of pain as I know it some of the questions up front that my answer would provoke.
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Posted in Artistry, Relationships, Society
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Tagged amy, amy winehouse, artist, creativity, deaths, madness, music, psychology, singers, true, women in jazz
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 There is a moment where if you’re single long enough, you cross a magic, invisible line.
Before you reach it, people tell you that you have time and shouldn’t get serious with anyone. That you should have fun.
Then with no apparent transition, you cross this imaginary line in their minds and you are accosted with questions of “what’s wrong with you that no one wants to keep you”.
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Posted in Attitude Adjusters, Dating, Family, Marriage, Relationships
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Tagged consolation, hope, human interest, long term relationship, prizes, relationship, rock music
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 New beginnings.
We find all kinds of occasions to celebrate the hope they bring, from new years to new days, most of us fill our lives with the opportunity of change they promise.
But the problem with these harbingers of better things to come is that they are only as good as the lessons we’ve learned from our old endings.
The new beginning that taught me this happened going into my first year of high school. I had spent junior high with the school system telling me I was slow mentally and I was going to use high school to prove them wrong.
As a matter of fact, Mr. Benton, the Principal of my high school told my mom to her face how impressed he was with my intelligence within the first month of my freshman classes. Then the enthusiasm fell out of his voice and he continued “Of course, because of what Chris did, I’m still forced to suspend him from school for three days.”
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Posted in Attitude Adjusters, Self Realization, Society
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Tagged education, endings, fire, fresh start, lessons, lessons learned, new beginnings, school system, teaching
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 There’s nothing like a holiday to remind you of the poor choices you’ve made. Especially, single parents.
Monday, I was talking to a friend whose kids were part of a Father’s Day celebration and for him, the whole thing was a magnification of what he was unable to provide for them as a single dad.
Last week, I was talking to another friend who was lamenting how she shortchanged her child by choosing a complete narcissist to marry and then divorce after his infidelity.
I listened to both of them and gave what specific realistic assurances I could based on what I know of their situations. But there is one thing, that as a foundation for decision making, applied to both.
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Posted in Family, Marriage, Relationships
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Tagged child, children, choice, choices, forget, forgotten, parenting, parenting divorce, remember, right choice, single parents
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 Without trust, there is no real relationship.
One of the hardest hammers to hit trust is cheating in that relationship.
But what do you look out for?
Well, here are five of the most oft repeated common sense indicators that this isn’t the guy you want to be exclusive with. At least the ones that I’ve personally witnessed around me.
I hope you can’t relate.
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Posted in Dating, Emotional Self Defense, Marriage, Relationships, Self Realization
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Tagged cheating, common sense, education, ethics, human behavior, human interest, love, male friends, norm, relationship, rendezvous, rough patches, Self Help, sociology, tabs
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